Navigating the Emotional Side of Weaning
Weaning from breastfeeding is a transition many parents don’t anticipate as being emotional, but it often is. Whether you decide to stop nursing after a few months, or a year (or more) into your journey, it’s normal for your mood to shift during this change.
Why Weaning Can Affect Your Mood
There are several reasons your mental health may feel different when you stop breastfeeding:
Hormonal changes: Two hormones that help with milk production and bonding (prolactin and oxytocin), shift when you stop nursing, which can affect mood.
Emotional connection: Nursing is about more than feeding, it’s often a time of closeness with your baby, so stepping away from that can feel bittersweet.
Guilt and outside pressures: Some parents feel guilt for weaning, or pressure to either continue longer than they want to, or stop earlier than they’d planned.
It’s also worth noting that abrupt weaning can sometimes have a stronger impact on mood compared to gradual weaning. Whenever possible, easing into the process can help both your body and emotions adjust.
Symptoms You Might Notice
If you’re weaning, you might experience:
Irritability or anxiety
Fatigue or low energy
Loss of pleasure in activities
Sadness or tearfulness
Depression
Changes in sleep or appetite
These feelings are valid and deserve attention. If you notice them, check in with your support system and consider reaching out to your OBGYN, pediatrician, or a lactation consultant . Many insurance plans actually cover lactation visits, something worth asking about.
Supporting Yourself Through the Transition
There’s no “right” way to wean, but here are some gentle ideas that can help support your mental health during the process:
Talk it out – Connect with a trusted friend, partner, or another mom who understands.
Move your body – Light exercise and getting outside can boost mood.
Care for your basics – Hydration, rest, and balanced meals are especially important right now.
Give yourself grace – Remember that every feeding journey looks different, and there is no “perfect” way to do this.
Stay connected with your baby – Even if nursing ends, your bond doesn’t. Extra snuggles, playtime, and eye contact go a long way.
Books for Little Ones (and You)
Reading can be a wonderful way to process weaning, both for you and your child. For toddlers and older kids, books help explain the change in simple, reassuring language. Even for babies, reading can help you find the words for this transition. A couple of favorites are:
Both emphasize the enduring bond of love between parent and child, something that remains strong, no matter how feeding looks.
Final Thoughts
Weaning is more than a physical change, it’s an emotional one too. If you notice shifts in your mood, know that you’re not alone, and it doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. With support, gentle self-care, and professional guidance when needed, you can navigate this transition in a way that honors both you and your baby.
